Women spend hours talking about men, second guessing their behaviours and over analysing every facet of their beings.
Some say that men are simple creatures and its the women who complicate matters, whilst others believe that men are more complex than we once thought. Get your strategy right when dating in London for years of relationship bliss!
1) Someone to love
This may come as a surprise to you considering women have had it drummed in to their heads that men are mostly only after one thing. In fact, men love to be loved and they can be pretty good at reciprocating too. So on a first, third or fifth date; leave the cynicism at home and believe that it could go further than a quick fondle in the back of a cab.
This doesnt mean that a woman has to scrub up well enough to rival Gisele. In many instances, supermodel looks are inaccessable and intmidating to a man. A well presented, attractive woman however is not and taking care of yourself is a must. Make sure that your hair, teeth and nails are all clean. Carry a compact mirror around to ensure that any spinach stays on your plate and not in your teeth.
Weve all met (and broken up with) the I need to be mothered man but even normal, independent and self sufficient men want to be with a woman who is simply kind.
A woman who is gentle and pleasant can appear more attractive in the sense that she would make a good mother to future children.
Being one of the boys can be attractive because you are portraying yourself as an understanding and fun person to be around. However, out drinking your man and beating him at pool in front of his friends is taking it a tad too far. You still want to be perceived as a member of the female species. This means that farting and burping is a no go area…they may do it front of you but this is one of those moments where what is good for the gander is NOT so good for the goose.
5) Sense of humour
Men dont want a woman who is uptight, stern and a basic extension of their old school teacher. Be relaxed, be sociable and be fun. Resist the urge to moan about the smallest things and try to see the positive in making light of a difficult situation. Leave the nagging to a minimum; its not attractive.
Nit picking about leaving the toilet seat up is one thing but criticising your mans every move is a sure fire way to singledom. You and your man should work together as a team; he sees you as his support network; be there for him if he loses his job; try to help in practical ways and comfort him the best way you know how. For some men, this is done through sex; for others its thorugh conversation. Just be there and whatever you do, dont turn on him.
Once a man is relaxed in a relationship, lazyness can take over causing an air of complacency to surround him – and you. Keeping him on his toes by being slightly unpredictable at times can make him work for you and keep him alert. If he thinks hes going to have his dinner on the table every night; go out with your friends instead. Keep your own social life going and maintain your friendships. Creating your world around him is unattractive.
Whilst passion and fire can work wonders in the bedroom; shouting your mouth off at any given opportunity is overly dramatic and exhausting.
By all means, hold an intellectual debate and converse to your hearts content but leave the shouting and plate smashing for Greek weddings.
9) Sex appeal
There comes that time in every relationship where fantasy must give way to reality. i.e. the make up comes off, the tracksuits come on and chilling mode has definitely begun.
This is all good and well now and again but let us not forget that men are visual creatures; they need to be stimulated so what they see should be what they like.
Life is hard enough with a man having to worry about trusting the girl he loves. Keep him challenged but dont lie, dont betray and dont cheat on the guy; be honest and be cool.
Above all else, you want to relish your experiences, for London is so much more fabulous when youre in great company!