They say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and whilst we all have different preferences, there are certain things in a member of the opposite sex that when performed correctly, can guarantee a fiery chemistry that will have your date wanting more. Read on to find out the secrets to beign sexy.

1) Make an effort

Chose somewhere nice to go. A venue that is original. Check out things to do for inspiration. Regarding clothing – your dressing gown might be your best friend when youre in front of the t.v. but there are certain times when your clothes, hair and if youre a girl, your make up need close attention. This is one of those times.

2) Look clean and healthy

Research has shown that a tan is attractive because its a sign of good health. This doesnt mean that you should roast yourself under the sun but it does mean that cleanliness = attractiveness. So make sure your hair and breath are fresh and if its summer, your feet are in tip top condition. Dry skin and unmanicured nails is not a good look.

3) Be confident

Looking your date in the eye and having your own opinion is attractive within itself.

4) Be employed

There are certain situations which you cannot control, such as if you have just graduated and youre looking for a job. If however, you have been unemployed for a substantial period of time and youre not trying, this is a top turn off for your date.
Hard-working, driven and ambitious people are sexy.

5) Being polite

It isnt just old people who see common courtesy as an undervalued virtue. Showing concern for others and saying please and thank you portrays your caring side instantly and this is attractive. So when the waitress brings you your drink/food, use it as an opportunty to show that being polite is cool.

6) Smell nice

Whilst it is a real put off when a persons fragrance enters the room before they do, a subtle scent that is fresh and clean can be totally sexy. You can check out some popular fragrances here http://www.theperfumeshop.com/

7) Dress fashionably

This doesnt mean that you have to turn up in the current trend for flourescent yellow anoraks, but a little bit of style wont go amiss.
Ensure that your shoes are clean and that you dont wear more than 3 different colours in any one outfit. You can find some up to date style ideas here http://www.vogue.co.uk/fashion/trends/

8) Be independent

Theres nothing worse than a date who is overly clingy by asking you where youre going or who you are talking to on the telephone or worse, being constantly all over you.
Of course, its lovely to show a bit of attention to your date but giving all of yourself all too soon will reek of deperation. Be interested, be tactile in a subtle way and be warm. Dont be desperate.

9) Dont be afraid to spend

Showing a generous side will inevitably portray you as a generous spirit. Someone who likes to enjoy life and relish the moment is undeniably attractive.
This doesnt mean that have to order Dom Perignon, but steer clear from breaking down the bill when it arrives. Oh and ordering tap water is a sure fire way to never see your date again. Sorry, thats just the way it is.

10) Smile

Yes, its the famous one! It may sound repetitive but smiling really is incredibly appealing. Make sure your teeth are clean and youre good to go. Its an inexpensive way of improving your looks and ultimately people seldom notice old clothes if you wear a big smile. (Lee Mildon).