So you’ve gone out and met a girl – you could be dating or she could be a friend of a friend – either way if you notice any of these behaviours, give up as, chances are, she’s just not attracted to you.

Sometimes, some of these behaviours are an indicator that she’s so attracted to you she can’t trust herself around you. But, that’s so rare so, unless you notice indicators that she’s attracted to you. Don’t kid yourself, she’s not into you; don’t waste any more time chasing the wrong girl, move on and get back out there.

Eye contact

Eye contact is a great indicator as to whether she finds you attractive or not. If she won’t maintain eye contact with you for more than a few seconds, then she’s probably not interested in you.

She keeps a distance

If she likes to keep a distance of about 1 foot (30 centimetres) constantly, then I’d say she’s not interested. The same goes if she hasn’t made any physical contact with you – when a girl is attracted to someone, she’ll let the other girls in the room know that she likes you by making obvious physical contact. So an accidental brushing probably won’t count.

She repays you

If you take a girl out for a drink and:

she won’t let you buy her a drink, or
insists on returning the favour if you do, she’s probably not attracted to you.

The reason? She doesn’t want to feel like she owes you something.

She doesn’t get back to you

She’s not too busy, she hasn’t accidentally forwarded you to voicemail and no, she hasn’t lost your number; if she doesn’t get back to you, she’s not interested. If she really did like you, she would find the time to respond to your calls, emails, texts or messages. So, if it takes her a day or two to get back to you then she doesn’t find you attractive and pursuing it would be pointless.

She doesn’t want to know

That is, she never asks you to go into more detail. Quite simply, if you’ve been out on a few dates, or if you’ve met her a few times with friends, and she doesn’t want to know any more about you, she’s not attracted to you.

She tries to set you up with her friends

This is probably the most obvious sign that she’s not interested. She may use this as tactic to get rid of you and your affections. Think about it, girls generally like to set their single friends up, so, if she starts talking about her friends and:

makes it obvious to you that they are single and,
asks you what you think about them , then she’s not interested in you.

She avoids spending time alone with you

If she’s always got her friends with her then she’s probably trying to distance herself, stopping you from being intimate with her and, therefore, you can accurately deduce that she’s not attracted to you.