Picture this, you are out on a great night in somewhere in London and a guy has come up to speak to you. How do you tell if he is attracted you? Read on and find out how you can tell, from his compliments, whether he actually likes you and wants to ask you on a date in London or whether he just wants to get you into bed.
The first glance
When you first cast eyes upon each other, if he is attracted to you he should hold eye contact for a little longer than normal – this would probably be no more than half a second. Then, he will break eye contact and look away. But if he’s interested in you, he’ll look back at you again.
He’s looking at you
Maybe he hasn’t caught your eye yet but if, say, you are at a bar and a guy looks over at you more than once he probably likes you. Same goes if you are listening to someone speak and he keeps looking over at you.
When a man finds someone attractive he can’t help smiling but then he’ll try to hide it a little. You should then see a half smile and, if you saw him smile fully first, this indicates he may be attracted to you.
If he’s attracted to you, he’ll want to come over. If you like him you should indicate that you want him to approach you by smiling, being warm, friendly, by being yourself and having fun. Playing hard to get is not a good idea – don’t start a potential relationship with game playing – you may set a precedent.
If he wants to get your full attention he’ll try and single you out. This could mean separating you a little from your friends, standing in front of you – blocking out your chances of catching someone else’s eye – or, if you are sitting, by putting his arm along the back of the chair.
We are animals, after all, so if he likes you one way to tell is if he acts like an alpha male. What he should do is try to make himself look bigger by putting back his shoulders and sticking out his chest. This is him showing that he’s strong and will be able to look after you.
If he’s listening to you, he should look you directly in the eyes. But if his eyes drift down your mouth and back again then he’s probably thinking about kissing you.
How to tell he wants to ask you out
If he wants to ask you out he’ll give you a lot of eye contact. If you like him, encourage him to ask you out him by smiling, making lots of eye contact and flirting with him.
It’s a well known fact that ‘pick up’ systems tell guys to compliment girls. The thing is, these compliments are usually false and designed to trick you into sleeping with them. You can usually see through these false compliments – if a guy you’ve only just met compliments you on your appearance or something about you that he doesn’t know much about, he’s probably trying to ‘pick’ you up.
But if a guy comments on something specific, other than your looks, it’s because he finds you interesting i.e. he may compliment you on your career, on something you’ve accomplished or he may compliment you on a common interest. This type of compliment shows he wants to get to know you and likes you for more than your looks. If you want to know if a guy is genuinely attracted to you, and not just trying to pick you up for sex, see what he choose to compliments you on.