Being new to London, you may get asked to parties where youll probably only know a handful of people, sometimes you may not know anyone there. This situation can be rather daunting. When you get your first party invites, dont fear it, just follow these simple tips and youll be a hit at any party and start making new friends in London instantly!
1) What to wear
Youll need to feel comfortable with your clothes, otherwise youll be worrying about whether you are going to pop out of your top, and constantly pulling up your trousers when you need to pay attention to the conversation or join in the fun. This can make you seem nervous and uncomfortable around others. Looking your best will give you the confidence to chat to strangers and have fun.
2) Arrival
Nothing is worse than arriving at a party too early when you dont know anybody. Its much better to be fashionably late. If you know some people going arrange to arrive with them, if not, an hour after the start is the perfect time to get there, there should be plenty of people and a wide range of opportunities to start conversations. But dont be too late as you will have to play catch up.
3) Alcohol
Ok youre there, first things first alcohol! If you have not brought any, naughty! You must find some, Alcohol acts as a great ice breaker, “Hi, do you mind if I have one of those? Hi, Im {INSERT NAME HERE}, nice to meet you” or “mmm, whats that? Mind if I try some?” If you have brought booze, why not offer some of it about, remember use it as a tool to meet people but dont get taken for granted. Either way, keep a drink in your hand; it gives you something to think about.
4) Mingle
One great way to socialise and have fun at a party, when you dont know many people there, is to leave your insecurities at the door and join in everything. Be the life and soul of the party; act like everybody there is your friend, or at least should be, join in dance-offs, conversations, drinking games, computer games, join in everything. However, you should be aware of peoples boundaries and dont be too pushy – some people may not want to join in. This is a great tactic if you dont care what people will think after the party, some people may think you are weird but more importantly, others will think, “Who was that cool person? I want to be friends with them!”
5) Conversation
What to talk about, hmm? Thats simple if you are clever and prepare beforehand, think about what youd like to talk about, although not too much as you dont want to sound like your reading from a script. Think about current affairs but avoid politics and religion – you dont want to enter into a debate. Think about books, films, TV, art and any interesting things youve seen/done/found. Humour is a great ice breaker, try to remember funny stories or jokes – if you pull this off youll soon have a crowd gathered, listening intently and laughing. Remember to look the person you are talking to in the eye, use open body language and say the persons name whilst you are talking, this will portray a positive image to other party goers. And most import, if you like someone get their contact details.
Now you are ready to party in London, so no more fears about fitting in. Get stuck in and have fun!
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