If you want to meet new friends in London, you will need to have things going for you that will make them want to make friends with you. These things can be as simple as adapting your tolerance levels to humour and even down to your hobbies. Here are a few things to think about.
Get busy living
One of the best ways to make people want to hang out with you in London is to have plenty going on in your life in London! Do you have any hobbies or play any sports in London? If you dont, you need to start doing things with your life. You may consider volunteering, its great for your community, youll meet more people and it can have a positive impact on your social life. The point is if you have nothing going on in your life, other than studies or work, you will be less attractive to people you meet and youll have less to talk about. You want to maximise the chances of having something in common with the people you meet. Plus, any all those activities youre involved in will give you a huge confidence boost.
Improve your sense of humour
People love to laugh, simple. If you want people to want to spend time with you in London, make them laugh. Recount funny stories youve heard, tell jokes you think are funny, point out funny things that have happened on the TV or in your life. Another thing to consider is comedy lessons, its another hobby and it will teach you to be funny, people will flock to be with you. Also a trick here is to watch lots of comedy on TV, on the internet and on film. This will be like having comedy lessons without the price tag! Just remember, youll need to know when to stop being funny.
Dont be too self focused
Me, my favourite person right? Wrong! People dont want to keep hearing about you all the time. You wont make many friends if you dont take interest in other people when you meet them in London.
Contribute to conversations
Its important not to talk too much but at the same time its important not to be too quiet either. If you are too quiet then it makes it hard work for potential new friends in London to make conversation and they will be less likely to want to hang out with you in future.
An important part of being likeable is tolerance. Sometimes people you are with do annoying things, if its not a serious problem you need to take to the high road rather than getting annoyed. Sometimes friends will ask you to go places you dont like, just think if you like the people there, the venue shouldnt matter. You will need to be flexible, picture this: youre supposed to be meeting up at 8, but you call and no-ones ready, dont get angry just go with the flow. Also it is important to learn how to take a joke, friends will often tease – dont take it personally.
Be nice to people
Without being a walkover you need to do nice things for people, other people will soon notice and may want to hang out with you. It can be as simple as giving genuine and honest compliments or buying a drink for someone. You dont even have to do that, if you listen to people without butting in. Open-mindedness can also show you are a nice, well-rounded person.
Dont be cheap
When youre a student you have to be cheap. But later in life that doesnt work. People will soon drop you if you are continuously not paying for drinks when youre out in London. Lots of the things people want to do cost money. If your love of saving money keeps you from taking part in these things then youre holding yourself back. People are going to want to eat out, theyre going to want to go to a club, and drink. Yes having friends is an expensive hobby- you have to accept that!
Accept every invitation
Its important we always squeeze this one in…you need to accept every invitation! If people you meet or any friends, ask you if you want to go out or do something, accept the invitation. You will need to put in the effort to go out and join in with everything; if you do youll get more invitations. And remember, the more things you experience the more youll have to talk about and subsequently, the more people will want to go out with you.