Are you lonely or sexually frustrated? Or maybe even both? You won’t be alone, as a lot of other guys share your aggravation but there is a solution to improving your dating life even if you can’t see it right now.
Maybe you’re going on regular dates in London but just not attracting the right kind of woman for you, or you can’t bring yourself to approach women you see in the bar or the street. Well, sit back and read the following that will provide much thought about how you could improve your dating life.
What do you really want?
It’s time to be honest with yourself. What do you really want? Whilst you may say “nothing serious” or “whatever I can get” when asked by your friends, what do you really want on a personal level?
It could be your ideal girlfriend that you want to have a happy and successful relationship with or you feel like playing the field and keeping your options open whilst you meet different women. Just be honest with yourself, because the first thing you can do to improve your dating life is knowing what you really want: Love, Sex, Dating or Friends.
How do I get what I want?
If you’re just wanting to improve your sex life and want non-committal and casual partners then going on dates is NOT the way to go about it. It’s best to be honest rather than to deceive even if you think it might be the only way. You’ll be surprised how many women out there are not looking for serious relationships too.
Or, if you’re looking for someone who is girlfriend material, then stop looking in the clubs and bars. The chances of you starting a romance in a night club are slim, both sexes are there to drink, dance, have fun and flirt. It’s better to meet someone in your day to day life, which can be difficult in London but not impossible. It’s not illegal to say hello to someone…
What are you offering?
Ok, so you’re clear on your goals and what you are looking for but what do you have to offer? I don’t mean money or worth but you as a person. What are your traits? What can you offer a girl depending on what you want?
It may seem difficult to look at yourself objectively depending on your level of self-esteem but it could be why you’re dating life is not successful right now. If you’re not confident at satisfying a woman sexually, then admit it and do some research and get that area of your life fixed.
Or, if you work too hard maybe take up a new hobby or an interest. Add something to your arsenal that makes you unique. It is a competition out there but there is someone for everyone, we all have different preferences and tastes and as long as you offer a positive version of yourself, you’ll attract the same back.
Maybe one of the biggest reasons a Man’s dating life is struggling, a lack of confidence can leave a guy feeling lost and hopeless but believe it or not, it can be fixed. So lift your chin up and follow this advice to improve your confidence.
In psychology, confidence is seen to be increased by the act of accomplishment, usually by showing courage. If you are running low on confidence, then you are not achieving enough in the areas in your life.
It could be health, maybe you don’t look after your body as best you can? Or, you don’t socialise as much as you should do? There’s many areas where a man is not achieving and this can cause us to not feel like we are on top of our game. Be aware, and think what you can do that can increase confidence. Join a gym? Aim for a promotion? Change careers?
You are important too
In today’s society, women hold a lot of social power which can be rather threatening to men and thus put them off the dating scene or leave them lost in it. Don’t worry, whilst some women out there may want to call the shot all the time, it’s usually because Men are failing to take the lead.
If you are on a date with a Woman, you should be the one taking the lead. A lot of guys fail at this, by giving her too many options. I know it may seem like the “nice” thing to do but it’s not going to win you any brownie points. Take the control, and lead the date.
Dog Eat Dog
Have you ever been out done by another man for the affections of a girl? We’ve all been there but don’t let that put you in your shell. If you feel you are lacking experience in talking to women, then the next time you go to a busy bar or club then do some ‘people watching’.
No, I don’t mean be a peeping tom but become aware of the men and women in the venue and see how they interact. If a guy has approached a woman or a group of girls, check out his body language, how is he talking to them, what is he doing. It’s important to recognise your competition before you start the game, you can have an advantage by offering something different.
Whilst fashion is as vast as it has ever been, perhaps you could do with a makeover to improve your dating success. If you have any female friends, then ask if they want to go clothes shopping with you, they’ll love to help out in picking things for you to wear and it’s good to get a female opinion on image.
Don’t fall into the trap of looking like everyone else, as much as we all want to fit into society and become acceptable amongst our peers, don’t be afraid to show your personality too. Whether that’s a piece of body jewellery, a tattoo or a crazy t-shirt from Camden Market. Women will remember you.