Great, you have found a guy you really like. But stop, is he really interested in you? If you notice any of the following points you need to be wary.
Just because he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you, he may still want to sleep with you – so you should know from the offset what you’re getting into so that you don’t get hurt.
Lack of planning
This is one of the most obvious sign that’s he’s not interested in you. If you call him up to make plans but he won’t commit or says ‘maybe’. What he’s doing here, is trying to keep his options open in case something ‘better’ comes up.
It could be another woman; it could be going to the pub with his mates. Either way, what he’s saying here, essentially, is that he doesn’t like you enough to commit; he’s looking for a better offer. Another indicator of this lack of interest is if he does make plan but stands you up or cancels – he’s found a better offer. In that case, all you probably are to him is a phone number with the possibility of sex, if you want more than this from him, you are going to be unhappy.
Standing you up or cancelling last minute, could, of course, be coincidental; he may have an emergency. So, make sure you are certain before you make a decision.
He never calls
If you have to call him because he never calls you, he’s not really interested in you. If he does like you, he’ll do the chasing. He won’t be able to stop himself. Same goes if he says he will call you and he doesn’t. He’s not ‘too busy’, he hasn’t’ lost your number’; he’s just not that into you. On the other hand, there may be a legitimate reason for not calling, so trust your instincts. But if it happens all the time, he’s definitely not interested.
He never asks questions
In other words, he doesn’t want to get to know you better. Chances are, he has already found out enough about you to get you into bed and doesn’t need to know about the things you like or what you think about, say, the ‘present economic climate’ or what your favourite food is etc. If this is the case, and you want to be more to him than a number he calls so he can have sex, get out of there as soon as you can; you will only going to get hurt.
He doesn’t introduce his friends
This one is a bit of a no brainer; if after a month or two of dating and he still hasn’t introduced you to his mates, chances are he doesn’t see much of a future for you two. Think about it, if he was actually interested in you and a long tern relationship with you, he wouldn’t be able to stop talking about you with his friends and, furthermore, would want to link the two things that make him happy; his friends and his girl.
He’s still not asked you out
Simply, if there’s a guy you like, maybe you’ve known each other for a while, but he hasn’t asked you out already, chances are he’s not attracted to you. He could of course be shy, in which case you ask him out and gauge the response.