Do you have a low self esteem? Does it stop you from making friends in London? Does it stop you from living a positive, fulfilled life? The chances are the cause of your negativity is the result of negative programming.
What is negative programming?
In the past you will have probably been told off by your parents or teachers or someone upset you – even if it didn’t feel bad at the time –giving you a negative message. Maybe you had sad moments in your life or at some point interpreted hostile body language that caused a negative reaction in you. Even advertising can have a negative effect, sending messages that you are not good enough. Negative programming occurs when such messages are received repeatedly.
The result of negative programming is a low self esteem, poor confidence and negative thinking which will stop you achieving your full potential.
1) Recognise damaging thoughts
Negative thoughts and low esteem cause you to become unconfident – they are not helpful to you, they only damage you and stop you from being the awesome person you are. They must be stopped! By allowing these thoughts, you are basically letting someone else do the thinking for you, someone who wants you to fail.
These thoughts are everyone from your past who told you that you couldn’t do something or told you that you were bad at something – they are ruling your present and future – don’t let them win!
Every time you try to do something and the voice in your head says something such as ‘I’m untalented’, ‘I’ll never get anywhere’ or ‘I am not beautiful’ – that is your negative programming doing your thinking for you. Listen for these negative statements – how many times do they speak to you and take over your mind and, ultimately, make up your mind?
When you give in to a demand made by negative programming – a statement made by the negative voice in your mind which demands you to think negatively – you are reinforcing your negative programming. And if you allow it to become reinforced it will only get stronger!
2) Positivity results in action
Negative thoughts create a negative reality. Often because a negative mindset results in not taking action. If you have a positive outlook, positive things will happen because you will take action. Failure is the path to success, if you never try you will never fail, if you never fail you will never be successful.
3) Eliminate Negative thoughts
Once you’ve recognised the negative thoughts, simply replace them with positive thoughts. All you have to do is decide you no longer want or believe this negativity – clear your mind. It’s so easy! When you catch a negative thought, say out loud, ‘No. Delete that.’ It’s just like selecting bad text on a word document and pressing the delete key on the keyboard. Replace the negative thought with the direct opposite i.e. ‘I’m bad at this’ with ‘No. Delete. I am good’. This stops reinforcement – positive statements will eventually change the way you think and deprogram the negativity that rules your life. It really is that simple.
4) How to stay Positive
a) Focus on the present and future. The past is gone – the hurt, pain, rejection and negativity are actually gone but you are choosing to relive it. Say No! And negativity that used to rule your life will disapere, for good.
Think about what you have today. Focus on that and what you have to be thankful for. Think about something specifically – it can be anything your health, possessions etc. Let the joy it gives you fill your mind.
b) Focus on how you can make your life and the world better – not what others expect or expected of you.
c) Visualise positive moments – think about positive things that have happened to you – this diverts your mind to a good place. Think about positive events in the future – create a picture of it in your mind and let the energy flow around you mind.