To get a guy to ask you out isnt always easy. Often you’ve got to be proactive – there’s no need to wait for him. It’s extremely flattering for a guy if you ask him out. It shows that you believe in equality in a relationship.

Ask him to join you on a social occasion

If there is a guy you like but you’re not too sure whether there is any chemistry, the best approach is to ask him out on a group outing with mutual friends. This works especially well if he’s a little shy. The great thing about this is you get to spend some time together, have fun and then you can gauge the situation and flirt.

Use persuasion

If you feel the chemistry and he still hasn’t asked you out, there’s no harm in gentle persuasion; hint! You should say something like:

‘I’ve always wanted to go to…’ or ‘have you seen that new film, I’d really like to go.’

If he’s a smart cookie he should be able to work out that you want him to ask you out. If that fails, a more proactive approach would be to say something like:

‘If you were to ask me out Id probably say yes…’

Then, if he wants to ask you out on a date, he will. If not, he’s probably an idiot.

Buy him a drink

This is the simplest approach. If you see a guy in a bar and you’ve noticed that he’s looking at you (then looking away but looking back again) – and you know you like him too, go over to him offer to buy him a drink.

Better still, if you’re in the right kind of place, ask the barkeeper to send him one over and tell him that it’s from you. This lets him know you are interested and he should come over to thank you.

If you are already friends and in a group situation, buying him a drink will make him focus on you – use this to spark off a conversation.

Find out what he did last weekend

Then suggest doing something similar together next weekend. Easy.

Ask him if he has a girlfriend

If he says no, ask him if he wants one. If he says yes, ask him if he has anyone in mind. If he likes you the conversation should end with him asking you out.

Let him know you like him

You don’t have to come straight out with and say ‘I like you, ask me out!’ But you can let him know that you like him. This sort of thing is great:
“You are such a great guy, carry on like this and I might just fall for you!”

Then back it up with lots of eye contact, moving into his personal space and touching him at the end of sentences.

Ask him lots of questions

It will be staggeringly obvious the guy that you like him if you ask him lots of questions about his life, what he does, what he likes. If he likes you too the conversation should end up in him asking you out. Especially if you hint and let him know you like him.