Asking a girl out on a date can be one of the hardest things that a guy has to do. But why, it doesn’t have to be. Read on to find out how easy it is to ask a girl out on a date.
Before you ask a girl out you should use positive thinking to help you become more confident and give you the courage to enable you to ask a girl out. Think about your achievements – what are you good at? Think about personal traits and achievements that you are proud of – it could be anything from getting your degree, getting a new job or even scoring a cracking goal at the weekend. Think about it and say to yourself:
‘yes, I am good, why would she not want to go out with me?’
If you don’t ask, you won’t get. Simple. Step out of your comfort zone
Find Common Ground
There is absolutely no point in just going up to girl you’ve just met, maybe you haven’t even met her, and just asking for her phone number or to go on a date.
Women want you to be interested in them. Talk to her, ask her questions and find out what she likes. A great way to ask a girl on a date is by doing just that, then when she mentions something you like too, say something like:
‘cool, I like them too. There’s a concert on next week – would you like to go?’
If you find no common ground, chances are the relationship is not going to work.
If she is someone you vaguely know, maybe from work or your friends, then you could check out her social networking profiles or ask her fiends to find out what she likes. But that’s a bit creepy. Nothing beats actually talking to her.
Don’t used closed Questions
Don’t just say would you like to go out on a date, that’s a closed question – there’s only a 50% chance she’ll say yes. Rethink your approach – find common ground and let it lead naturally to you asking her out, as above.
Know that she wants you to ask her out
A great way to tell if a girl wants you to ask her out on a date is if she asks lots of questions. If she wants to know every last detail about this means she likes you, and you should definitely ask her out on a date.
Or, if you still need help, try this:
Whilst I don’t agree with pick up lines -they are impersonal and staged – here are some lines which can help you take your conversation to the next stage. You’ll let her know you are interested in her, whilst giving her a chance to say, ‘no’ (so you can move on), without any of the psychological trickery which some dating ‘guru’s’ advise.
Can I buy you dinner?
If you want to ask a girl out on a date, a great way is to come out and say
“Can I buy you dinner next week?”
Yeah, there’s only a 50% chance she’ll say yes, but if she does, you’ll know she’s definitely interested. This type of question lets her know you are interested in her in a romantic way whilst giving her the option to say no.
Tell her you are taking her out
A riskier approach, but we all know women find confidence sexy in a man. Simply saying something like:
‘I’m taking you out this weekend, it’s going to be fun’
can be extremely effective.
You need to find a balance though, as you could come across as creepy or scarily dominant. Whilst being assertive and confident, you are also appealing to her fun loving side and inquisitive side by adding, ‘it’s going to be fun’ but at the same time letting her know that ultimately, the decision is hers.