You work long hours. You are tired in the evenings. You spend the weekend sleeping and recovering. It seems like a lot of effort to get up off the sofa, go out and socialise. Lets be clear – you can never make new friends in London sat indoors on your own. You need to get motivated to go out and have fun!
Lets ask the question what is motivation? Motivation is the driving force which allows you to go after and achieve your goals in life. Motivation is the oil in your achievement engine. The more motivated you the easier it will be for you to achieve your goals. Now we know what motivation is, how do we go about getting motivated to make friends in London?
1) Remove all distractions
Whenever you are trying to achieve anything the more distractions you have the less likely you are to achieve what you want to do. If you want to make friends in London then you will need to make that your focus – at least in the short term and block out other distractions.
2) Remove negative influences
Some people are lucky and are surrounded by positive family and friends. If that is you – you are very lucky. The chances are that is not the case. Have you noticed how ‘positive’ people always seem to have more friends. That’s no coincidence. Positive people tend to be risk takers – its this lack of fear of failure that makes them succeed where negative people fail. Negative people fail not because they are negative but because they are less likely to take risks when meeting new people. So in summary positive people win: so be positive!
3) Create reminders of your goal of making friends
If your goal drifts out of your consciousness the chances are your motivation to achieve your goal will go too. A reminder could be just a simple list or a maybe motivational quote. A good time to evaluate your goals is either last thing at night or first thing in the morning when your mind is clear. You could list all of your friends today and then in a months time look at the list again and see how many friends you have added.
4) Self investment
Smart, successful and happy people are not born they are made. What do these people have that unhappy and unsuccessful people don’t have. Well the smart, happy and successful people in London are not afraid to invest in themselves. Crucially they will spend money on their education and on their social life. This in turn makes them more valuable to society and increases their contacts. Ultimately they will generate further wealth and further happiness. So never hold back from investing in yourself!
A positive attitude is a source of motivation. This also ties in with belief – the more you believe in something the more positive you will be and the more likely you will be to go out there and make new friends in London. A negative attitude will de-motivate you and two things will happen. One you will fail to achieve your goals and two – nobody likes being around negative people which in your case is bad new for making friends. Always have a positive attitude – try it and see the difference it makes!