Do you go on lots of first dates, but never seem to be able to make it to date number two? Dating in London can be a minefield, and there are loads of ways your date can be put off. Follow these ten tips to help secure that all-important second date.
1) Dress to impress
It may seem like a no-brainer, but first impressions really are the key to a successful date. According to studies, we form our judgment on people within a split second of first meeting them, so dressing presentably is an absolute must. Ditch the scruffy jeans and make an effort – it will pay off!
Greeting your date with a warm smile will put her at ease and instantly make her feel more relaxed in your company. Maintaining eye contact whilst saying hello and flashing a cheeky grin will create a strong sense of positivity that will reflect on your date. And it’s not just the first few minutes that are important – make sure to smile regularly throughout the date to make it clear that you are enjoying yourself. Don’t overdo it though; you don’t want your smile to look robotic!
Its natural to be nervous on a first date, even the toughest of men can be reduced to a nervous wreck by the prospect. The important thing is not to let your nerves take control. Remember, your date is human too and is probably just as nervous as you are. Dont put too much pressure on yourself and just try to enjoy getting to know a new person.
4) Dont take yourself too seriously
One of the most sought after traits women look for in a man is a good sense of humour. This also means a man that can laugh at himself. Dont be offended if she makes a jokey comment at your expense, she is probably trying to instigate a bit of flirtatious banter! The best thing you can do is to join in with the joke, as it will show her you are up for a laugh.
5) Give good body language
Its called body language for a reason; the way you conduct yourself speaks volumes! Make sure not to fiddle with your hands or look downwards, as these are signs of awkwardness and will make your date feel uncomfortable. Instead, angle yourself towards her and lift your shoulders back. Confident body language will make you instantly more attractive.
There is nothing worse than a person who wants to speak about themselves constantly without a break. Be inquisitive and ask her questions which you think might provide interesting conversations. Youre both getting to know each other so the conversation should be split 50/50 between you. If you feel like youve been talking for too long, ask for her opinion or view on the subject. Interesting discussion will encourage her to come back for date number two!
7) Be open
First and foremost, a date exists to see if you are compatible for a potential relationship. Therefore, it is vital to be yourself. Dont try and create a persona that is not you, as it will be impossible to keep up a false image for long. Instead, be honest about yourself, your likes and dislikes, and your date will be a lot more likely to warm to you. Of course, you can be too honest. Try to leave confessions about your earth-shattering snoring until at least date number three.
If there is one thing that every female on planet Earth has in common, it is the love of a good compliment. Ensure to let your date know that she looks great, as the chances are she has made an effort especially to impress you. Again, dont overdo it; the aim is to make her feel flattered, not creeped out.
9) Offer to pay
It may be the 21st century, but like it or not the general consensus is that a man should at least offer to pay on the first date. If your date suggests you half the bill, she is probably just being polite. If she absolutely insists that she wants to contribute, however, suggest going to the bar for some drinks where she could get in a round. Not only will your confidence impress her, but youll be able to gage how keen she is on the prospect of a second date.
It seems obvious, but the best way to score a second date is just to ask! If you feel that the date has been a success, let her know how much you enjoyed it and suggest that it would be great to meet up soon. Being forward is a great way to show you are keen, and that way she wont be left wondering. Now breathe a sigh of relief… the hardest part is over!